Hi friends – OK, I took a week off. In a situation such as this, one can A) invent some excuses, B) defiantly defend myself, or C) avoid the elephant in the room and continue on as if nothing happened. Which one am I picking? Those of you who went with C? Ding ding ding!
Week 3 included Ben having brunch with his sister, Julia (Gulia). He described Courtney as “super-mellow, down to earth, and drama free.” They must have edited out his other tidbits of wisdom regarding his desire to head to Iran for their next date locale, the case for Donovan McNabb for 2011 NFL MVP, and Ragu spaghetti sauce over Prego. I take offense to the “Jennifer… she’s an accountant, BUT she’s super attractive.” What the H, man?! Pretty people like numbers too. Do I have to formulate a Super PAC on this?
Emily and Ben climb the Bay Bridge on their date. Postulate of Face Fear + Together = Unbreakable Bond has been served up for us. Relationship seekers everywhere are signing up for community education public speaking classes and Sleeping with Snakes and Strangers Clubs (they must exist). Emily gets the rose, and our postulate officially becomes a theorem. Who says you never use geometry in real life?
Next we have group date bikini skiing in San Francisco. Awe-summm. I swear these producers just play dirty magnetic fridge word games all day to come up with these date ideas. Oh, sorry, I mean Ben goes to great lengths to plan specific dates with meaning for the specific young woman (women) included.
I feel a little used with the “leap list” phenomena. It’s a plug for Honda. That’s their marketing campaign. Maybe this is news only to me, but I don’t like feeling used.
Brittney isn’t excited about the date and turns it down. When I was little (and even so to a lesser extent now), it was a big deal to me when I heard of someone breaking up WHO was the dumper and who was the dumpee. In general, the dumper gets the blame and the dumpee gets the sympathy. That has definitely changed some. Endings, whether they are after one drink or one decade, can be messy and confusing and complicated. Sometimes your new ex gives you an incredible gift by letting you go when they do. Sometimes it takes us until we find the next, or the last, until we realize it, but the sympathy/support for the dumper / dumpee needs to be evaluated on a case by case basis, and sometimes both ended up doing the right thing.
Lindzi gets Brittney’s one-on-one date leftover. This bothers her 0%.
Kacie B steals Ben away to tell him how hard it is to see him kissing and making connections with other girls. Ben shares with Kacie B that she has to remember what they have and locks lips with her in a “hey babe, I’m invincible” way. This, of course, works. From a lasting relationship skills-building standpoint, this encounter … fails to register on our scale.
Random question: Cloud nine is a popular place. Is there anybody on clouds one through eight?
I don’t care for the “you’re so cool, why are you still single?” question that Ben gave to Lindzi. I get it, it crosses people’s minds. It’s also not a completely unacceptable thing to say. However, singleness is not a disease that needs to be cured, and that’s what the question implies. I am intrigued by people who “can” and “don’t.” The guy who hasn’t been looked at by a woman in 20 years bragging about never cheating on his wife … cool, but not that impressive. The woman who gets asked out by Mr. Sleezies and would rather be patient and find someone she has feelings for, much more impressed.
Ben tells Jennifer that she is the best kisser. If Ben is sitting next to his betrothed watching this show, I imagine him receiving a significant but below domestic level of a pillow beating. Same thought occurs during every Courtney segment.
Shawntel comes back to win miss congeniality … kidding. She wants Ben. Ben is flattered. Ben is a boy. Thus, often stupid. However, not … this … stupid. Had he kept her around, every other girl there would have been Ben buzz killed. Men aren’t immune from playing the “stupid card” to our benefit; however, we usually know when and where that card is not going to be accepted. Good work, sir.
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