A Man's Perspective - Week 4

A few random thoughts for Week 4 or as I like to call it, "The one-on-one date curse: A bachelorette's emotional breakdown".

- I love Dr. Drew. Do you think he is more annoyed by addicts on Celebrity Rehab or the Bachelorettes (or the Bachelor)? Loveline was a great idea though. Good way for Brad to witness some tough questions answered by the ladies.
- I feel like this is a perverted version of Where's Waldo. Look what I see! Blurred nipples (Michelle) and bikini camel toe (Jackie)
- Why don't the girls like the Edamame? Did you see the size of that bowl by the pool? I guess food and girls in bikinis trying to impress a guy don't mix.
- Michelle's date may not have been the perfect date for a girl, but it sure was an awesome date for a guy. If things don't work out with the girls, I would be happy to join Brad in a helicopter ride to the top of a skyscraper followed by repelling down the side of a building. Although then Michelle would have to kill me.
- Jaime the therapist is back!!! I wish I had a therapist like Jaime. If you want to kiss, go for it. You need to explore all of these women romantically! Great advice.
- When is it a good time to introduce a new guy to your kid? I'm not sure what the answer is, but I'm guessing it is somewhere in the range of "many more dates than 1".

Quote of the Week

Brad to Chantal - "Will you quit talking and just kiss me?"

A Man's Perspective specializes in advice for women about what men want, but I'm going to give some advice to my male readers..."Do not try this at home". The line worked for Brad, but for some reason when I have used the same exact line, I've received a very different result.

Advice for the Bachelorettes

First, some advice for the girls on the one-on-one dates

-Chantal: When you are on a date, men will sometimes put you in an awkward situation by asking you to do something that makes you scared or nervous. How you react is very important. Not trying is a complete turn off and not an option. So what do you do? Now there is a fine line between not being yourself (and not showing you are scared) and being a drama queen. I suggest telling the guy you are scared and letting him play the role of the prince rescuing the damzel in distress. I'll give you a B+ for your date with Brad. You were nervous and perhaps cried a little too much for my taste, but you were still willing to try and turned the situation into a positive one.

Positives: I thought your chemistry was pretty good with Brad. You are very playful which is attractive and puts Brad at ease. Advice for all women: Actually being real and joking around makes men want to be around you more. Being serious and romantic for 100% of your time together is BORING. Brad said that he liked how you put him in check. This is a balancing act that you will have to continue to play. A woman that agrees with everything you say is a robot. A woman that constantly tells you what to do is bossy and a nag. Hope you are paying attention Michelle.

Negatives: Crying. Fighting with Michelle. Jealous about Emily's gift basket. As someone who picked you as his #1, I have some advice from William Wallace. HOLD, HOLD, HOLD...it together! If you are crying, don't go talk to Brad. Especially if you have had enough red wine to taint your teeth. When you confronted Brad, this was a potential disaster. Luckily you have the unique skill of turning a bad situation into a good one with laughter.

Michelle: Another situation where Brad puts a Bachelorette in a scary situation. Again, the crying was annoying, but you surprised me and decided to repel. Just like Chantal, you did a good job of walking that fine line of facing your fears and being a good sport. I'll give you a B+.

What are we going to do when Michelle is kicked off of the show? She borders on being entertaining and extremely annoying. So annoying that I sometimes want to stop watching the show. Then she pulls a great line and a funny comment and I wonder if we could make it without her.

Positives: You asked some good questions of Brad. Making a guy think and putting him on the spot is attractive and makes the date interesting. There is an obvious physical connection between you and Brad.

Negatives: Your pouting is very very annoying and your arrogance is making me question whether you are hot or not. You are obviously attractive, but I probably dropped you a point on my 1 to 10 scale. How long before Brad finds out you are crazy?

Week 4 All-Stars

Britt: Great speech on Love Line! You spoke very well under pressure. You were speaking directly to Brad, rather than speaking to Dr. Drew, the rest of the girls or into the microphone. This made your comments seem genuine. Your personality is making you more attractive. You still have skinny arms, but you looked good this week.

Marissa: Long hair again for cocktail hour!! You looked great and that kept you around again...for one more week.

Shawntel: You were confident at the mixer despite not getting a date and not ever having any one-on-one time with Brad. Your confidence is extremely attractive and it doesn't come off as arrogant. Great idea with the 1-2-3 jump move. I believe in pick-up artist lingo, that is called Kino Escalation. It worked magically and resulted in a kiss.

Brad: Recreating the picnic for Emily was very smooth. The other girls went crazy because this was the most romantic thing that you have done. You even had me thinking that you came up with this idea on your own. I believe the Bach Blogger mentioned this as well, but I'm moving Emily down a notch this week. With her perfect hair, southern accent and perfect personality, she almost seems fake to me. Is she beautiful? Absolutely, but I don't know if there is any substance to her that would keep her around if I was handing out roses.

Week 4 Flops

Ashley H: This was a disaster episode for you. You look very different without makeup and not in a good way. Lesson to be learned from Episode 4 - If you are drunk, jealous and you feel your emotions are running high, run away. Don't run to the bachelor, don't make comments when the bachelor is talking to the group. Just sit quietly and try to smile. You will do better for yourself if you just don't spend any time with a guy in this mental state. I think my comments from Week 2 are proving correct. The momentum mistake is killing Ashley H. She is going crazy because she is not able to relive the emotions that she had from date #1 and she is misinterpreting it as Brad not being interested in her. On the other hand, Brad is still interested, but only because he is holding on to that one good night.

I have to give it up for Ashley for her honesty. "If I go home tomorrow, It's 100% my fault".

Ashley S: You are very cute and petite, so it was funny to hear you say, "I wish I was the one that gave Michelle her black eye. Because I want to rip her head off". Then it was confusing seeing you talking to Michelle one-on-one and you hearing her out and consoling her.

And a word for our parting Bachelorettes

Stacey: You fell for the oldest trick in the reality book. If a non-Bachelor (former contestant, celebrity interviewer or Dr. Drew) asks you a potentially harmful question in front of Brad, LIE! You admitted to cheating on a boyfriend in college. Brad told you that he appreciated your honesty...but then he elminated you.

Lindsay: "It is disappointing. Rejection is always hard." Great comments, but then you said something weird. "My dad is going to be so proud of me for being the daughter that he and my mom raised me to be". What does this mean? That she really wanted to get aggressive with Brad? Did she really want to get drunk? Does she normally swear like a sailor? This made me believe that Lindsay wasn't being herself and if you are not prepared for your family seeing you on national television, then you shouldn't sign up for the Bachelor.

Meghan: I loved your exit. I'll always remember you as the girl who ran out of the mansion in an old man trot. For those not familiar with the old man trot, it is that same move that your dad shows off when he is running to the car. He is trying to show he is hustling, but is fearful of pulling a hamstring. A classic!