Before I go any further, I have to say that this show is awesome. I watch and feel so focused, like Jon Gruden watching football game film. My roommates could start going at it on the dining room table, and I probably wouldn’t even notice. In fact, they’re oiling each other up right now. (OK, I noticed.)
I really like the Brad, in a brotherly way. His willingness to attack whatever elephant is in the room / helicopter / private island / yacht is something I have a lot of respect for. I recall him being a bit shallow the first time around, which is not a knock on his character, but rather on his emotional intelligence or intimacy ceiling. He spoke in clichés and avoided potentially difficult topics. This time, he’s mature and probing. Good job, dude. Keep it up.
I think many of us in early dating phases (or maybe for much longer) avoid issues that will result in conflict. The people I’m closest to are capable of, and desire to, explore those issues. I’d hope that’s true for my girl someday too. If your heart is in the right place and there is a desire to find a solution, it will happen. This also requires confidence in knowing yourself and trusting that great will find you. It might mean letting go of pretty good … which is easier said than done.
Totally sick of the Brad getting the credit from the ladies (and taking it) for planning these dates. A lot of guys feel good about themselves when they recommend a restaurant with less than 500 similarly named (chained) domestic locations, so stop setting that bar up in the stratosphere.
We got a guest appearance from the Anguillan Bob Dylan, Bankie Banx! That’s pretty random. When the Bachelor takes a romantic getaway to our country, I would gladly play the role of lazy-river-tube-floatin’-Minnesotan entertaining those not on the date. Just saying.
Britt handled herself well, but it just wasn’t meant to be. I wonder when girls are told on this show that the romantic chemistry wasn’t there if they just go off the side of the wild wagon. I don’t see Britt one-hour-at-a-time motel hopping, but I sometimes wonder. Maybe her next boyfriend will thank the Brad for it. ;)
I can’t digest how much Ashley chews her words. Sorry, it’s a deal breaker.
A relationship built on fear may work for dictators and concubines, but it didn’t work for Michelle and the Brad. I think he canceled the cocktail party because he was scared that she would be able to manipulate her way back in.
The subject of this post relates to that painful group date. Keeping one girl happy is difficult enough. Chantal is a basket case, Michele is psycho, and Ashley was unintentionally hilarious when she was freaking out about being let go, not letting Brad get a word in.
Emily and Shawntel are the top two contenders. Both great girls – I like them both – they’re also very different. Shawntel, as was foreshadowed earlier, is an action star. She is a great companion on any date. She’s lady-like yet sporty, relaxed yet focused, and serious yet fun. My concern is whether she’s anywhere near old-married-couple mode. How would this relationship translate to 9-5 weeks, laundry, bill-paying, and grocery shopping routines? Would Shawntel quickly tire of it? Not that all people want that right away, some can just enjoy “experiencing life” together for a while.
Emily, on the other hand, exudes “wife” and “mother” qualities. It’s almost like she belongs in the 1950’s as a Playboy’d up June Cleaver. She comes across as the ultimate domestic partner. She’d look great on your arm at corporate events, would dutifully take the kids to tennis practice and put them to bed, and then come back downstairs and be an am-I-really-this-lucky cuddle partner.
Two options filled with causes for concern and reasons for hope; I’m looking forward to seeing how it plays out!
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